The various moments in my life, along with advice, motivations and fashionable perspectives. 

 Cleric - Yukijoro

The focus of my writing style under the influence of my inner muse yukijoro is "mentality" and the overall reflection of the emotions that lie deep within. My hope is to process the life lived and the life I hold now. Of all my writing voices, this is the most true to the me now, I am still the woman who is healing from her winter. This facet has the most presence on my blog, as she is the one reflecting on my journey and experiences. 

You can catch this guide on my main blog sharing my wisdom, experiences, and reflections. 


Working towards more fulfilling self-love and exploration is the goal of all my writing, and why I explore how I navigate my life. If you feel you need help building an emotive goal, you can now email or message me at your discretion. - E&HS: Setting Emotive Goals

A Note from Jade

These glimpses of my life like chapters of breathing memoir vary from topic to topic. Some are heavy, and some are light please keep in mind that these are moments from my life past, present, and dreams for the future. -Jade

Chapter 14: The Worst Option

Be wary of those on the fence type folk. 

There used to be a channel on YouTube, that my siblings and I really enjoyed. It was called "Epic Rap Battles of History". There was something about seeing historical figures pitted against each other in a rap battle that really delighted us. I loved the easy wordplay and hidden intellectual humor embedded in each line. My favorite part was the last lines of the video, "who won you decide". Simple enough, but yet picking a winner seemed to be hectic in the comments below. Every now and again I would see a comment, the person picks none of the rappers or its just to hard to pick. 


Neutral is a Spectacle Disease. 

Like, my queen, Nicki Minaj said in No Frauds, "Pick a side, Pick a side". A moment in musical history that I took to heart and likened to rather quickly. In the many years observing humanity, and various moments where people needed to make choices. It could be in something simple like picking between Mario or Luigi. Then in more complex choices like, "Yes" or "No". Sometimes making a choice, is pretty easy. It can be made in the span of seconds. Other choices over the span of years. Picking a side is as old as history itself. Yet somewhere between, picking the right materials to make fire and the latest iPhone, being neutral was born. Out of being neutral came the messiest choice, worst option, and dangerous consequences. 

On the micro level, making a choice seems to happen anywhere from social interactions to picking a place to eat. The biggest example I can think of is when friends don't like one another. It began with the fire nation, I'm teasing, but more often feuds begin with something small like the avatar missing for 100 years. Still, friends can disperse in views and you dear reader might find yourself in the middle. Some people find remaining neutral is the way to go. Despite the fact, that it tends to bring more harm and stress to both parties or sides involved. At some point, a side is chosen, and delaying the inevitable is just emotionally and socially destructive. The advantages to sides is you can pick one and stick with it or if you have a change of heart then switch. Either way that's better than staying in a gray area, hoping for some higher praise for being on both sides but also none. This is all small stuff, but little moments in our lives where being neutral is a popular option. 

On a larger scale, gray areas are deadly. I'm not sure at what point in time the creation of a gray area between yes and no. Ever since then, the middle-ground and disillusion for the answer of "yes" and "no" have created an unfathomable consequence. There should never be a question or action put forth after someone implies no. There is no middle ground but look at the consequences of people ignoring the sides of "yes" and "no". Another example of choosing a gray area is human rights. You're either for it or against it. Being for it means you are for all human rights not just one group of people. In my travels and understanding of society, it appears that the gray area of civil rights is a very desirable spot for those who are privileged to not be impacted by the consequence of it. I'm not making this a post to call out, a certain group of people, or people I've spoken with specifically. I'm saying this to provide insights about what being neutral does on the grander scale in life. There are a lot of movements occurring and some choose to stay in the gray area, and it's just irritating. Actual people are at risk while you're living lavish watching the world burn in a gray area of safety. It feels like, the gray area is a place to be when you just want to watch and not actually help any side at all. It's a lazy choice, to me. Seeing friends, relatives, and strangers make this choice despite having people around them affected by it is so disheartening. 

Navigating society, and studying consequences of actions and choices led to one of the things I've learned. Which is the gray area or neutral zone people pick instead of sides, is the worst option. Just make a choice, there is no glory in making none or trying to be a gray area. It's just dangerous. 

Neutral is not a choice, - Empress Jade


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