Jadedisland

Mentality

The various moments in my life, along with advice, motivations and fashionable perspectives. 

 Cleric - Yukijoro

Inspired by my academic pursuit and personal roots with psychology, mental health, and healing Yukijoro is the second facet I named. The myth of the fantasy creature/spirit and ice deity spoke to me when I read about, "the woman who died in winter". After experiencing and overcoming some of severe trials of my own, I often felt like I was trapped in ice, looking towards a positive and beautiful world. So the frozen healer holding a mirror is one of my perceptions of self. My stronger, but perhaps melancholic, muse helped me through loneliness and isolation by reshaping my writing voice and emotive style. The focus of my writing style under the influence of my inner muse yukijoro is "mentality" and the overall reflection of the emotions that lie deep within. My hope is to process the life lived and the life I hold now. Of all my writing voices, this is the most true to the me now, I am still the woman who is healing from her winter. This facet has the most presence on my blog, as she is the one reflecting on my journey and experiences. 

You can catch this guide on my main blog sharing my wisdom, experiences, and reflections. 

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Working towards more fulfilling self-love and exploration is the goal of all my writing, and why I explore how I navigate my life. If you feel you need help building an emotive goal, you can now email or message me at your discretion. - E&HS: Setting Emotive Goals

A Note from Jade

These glimpses of my life like chapters of breathing memoir vary from topic to topic. Some are heavy, and some are light please keep in mind that these are moments from my life past, present, and dreams for the future. -Jade


Chapter 17: Photo Bombed

The audacity of a man jumping into my best friends graduation photo with her student. 

Empress & her Spectacle: Photo Bombed

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As, a self-made queen of fashionable aesthetically coordinated things, I'm no stranger to the occasional message on Instagram or Facebook from strangers. In fact, even when I was a young lad, of dorky portions and glasses I wish I never wore, I adored the aspect of just meeting people. The connection to the world was appealing and daring. Yet, what would a black woman with a vocabulary suited for historical romance novels offer a world? Some might say coordinated looks, others wisdom, a few might say some startling stories, but many might just say a blogger taking up my feed. 

That being said, I've been met with social media professional blunders. The first being the occasional message from ambitious folk looking to do photo shoots, but with nothing crediting their experience. I'm talking about a message offering to partner up, but no actual reference of previous photography shoots, or anything beyond a SoundCloud link. It worries me. Many hours have gone into watching criminal minds episodes and plenty of crime shows. Wariness hits me hard when people attempt to link with me for collaborations on projects or things they don't have previous work on. 

So when in doubt, consult friends and family on job offers, collaborative work, and more. Put in research, look for scams, Kim possible on their social media to see if they can back up their word. Over the summer of 2017 during my early journey in job hunting (that i'm still on) I was greeted with a job opportunity to work with a travel agency. It sounded amazing, offered lovely benefits and travel opportunities. I was stoked! I did the paperwork, read through the process. All i needed was to receive packages, and transfer money. Little did I know, that this job was a scam job. Before 2017, I was not aware of fake job offers and people targeting recent graduates. Now, i'm sadly aware. When I received the first package, at this point I had informed my mom, and she intercepted the packet making sure I didn't touch it. Wrapped it in three trash bags, and told me what to do next. I had my law savvy friend in Nevada, and my best friend to help me defuse the situation after. There was a mixture of furious and sad feelings. One at being so naive and hopeful about a job that I would jump through hoops. Two at putting my household at risk. That being said, my guard is up on emails, and messages regarding job offers. 

Recently, I've been putting my best foot forward and putting my name & brand out there. Its thanks to friends, and support from family sharing my posts. Thanks to that active support Jadedisland spreads and reaches more people. Which also means my messages get flooded with suspicious offers. After asking my facebook family what to look out for here is a collection of tips on interacting with artists, photographers, and modeling in general. 

Tips from friends:

  •  Ask for references of past models, or artists worked with

  • Never go alone & use the buddy system, especially if they are insistent on being alone with you

  •  If they get uncomfortable with you asking multiple questions, time to bounce an artist should be comfortable answering questions

  • Know the difference between a photographer and a dude with a camera

  • Ask for a portfolio and website for more references

  • Modeling agencies never ask for nudes

  • Make sure you have in writing paid work and contracts

  • Set your boundaries, and state what you are comfortable with doing and what you are not

  • Trust your gut instincts

These pearls of wisdom were collected thanks to a fellow artist and friends. Without their wisdom, and experience I would not have known these safety tips in regards to working with artists, and potential modeling offers. Please give them a big like, and check out their work immediately! 

Shay: Check out her Instagram, featuring her artwork!

Margo: Check out her modeling on her Instagram and her website!

 


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