Pink Energy: Negativity in Kawaii Spaces
“Online communities are not perfect, and I accept that I’m not a perfect person. This is one aspect of interacting in online spaces that allows me to confront negativity and well keep myself accountable and honest. At the end of the day there are mean people who don’t know what you’re going through or can have the decency to respect that you are a human being with feelings, a life, and a story they don’t engage with outside of social media.” - From a Facebook message
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Magical living isn’t all tea and pink lace wigs. I decided to revisit a topic from way back when. This post is inspired by a question I was asked from an online friend. They asked me how I avoid and ignore negativity in online spaces. Plot twist I really don’t. A community is never perfect if it’s just positivity and rainbow memes. Positivity does not equate perfection. Avoiding negativity is not a means to be perfect. In online spaces this is where things get tricky. How we present ourselves online can be easily perceived in a million ways whether positive or negative, often there is “persona” build up that isn’t as suave as the video game series. Our online personas can navigate us to places that we might feel don’t accept our authentic selves.
I had an interesting situation where someone seemingly ghost shaded me. Meaning they made a post on their social media, and it really seemed like they were talking about me. Me being me, I just asked, I held this person to a higher standard than a passive aggressive post. They never responded. I was startled because as a fellow advocate and kawaii human being, I just thought they would talk to me if they honestly had an issue with how I posted or vented online. I was wrong. They never spoke to me. I tried messaging months later because I did hold them in high regard. Same deal. I just removed them at the point. While, yes I was saddened that someone I admired removed me but the miscommunication was never going to be rectified. The negativity would sit in a queue. In this situation, I was the negative person, I found it better and honest to confront the issue. The truth is online spaces give you the freedom to stop interacting in them. If you are overwhelmed with negativity and talking with the source or any attempts to address it go downhill then bounce. Magical Girl spin out there.
Addressing negativity is fine. If you had a negative moment, that's fine. There is nothing wrong with that. You can vent, be angry as much as you want. Just because you're kawaii doesn't mean you avoid everything awful in the world. What is horrible is people believing you aren't allowed to be those things on your social media. We experience life differently, circumstances, and events can change our temperament at any moment. That doesn't excuse you, but it does allow you to grow and change. In kawaii spaces, this is forgotten, pushed aside because we love all things cute. It's not the type of magical Girl I wish to be. I want to be honest with my feelings good and bad. If it takes me some time, I will be on that 25 episode arc of being emotionally authentic. I have to be because too many people think shying away from negativity means their lives are perfect. When the reality is, life is never complete until you're honest with yourself.